Oliver Drakeford Therapy has released new research findings that quantify the profound impact of listening skills on relationship success, with data showing that individuals who report their partner has strong listening abilities are 43 times more likely to be in a thriving relationship category compared to couples who struggle with listening. The analysis represents a dramatic shift from just 1 in 70 couples to nearly 2 in 3 achieving relationship success when effective listening is present.
The data, collected from the practice's couples intimacy quiz, confirms clinical observations that lasting intimacy is built on patterns of connection, with communication serving as the foundation. Oliver Drakeford, Clinical Director of Oliver Drakeford Therapy, emphasized that when couples learn to truly listen, they create the conditions for growth, trust, and deeper emotional closeness. The research findings are particularly significant given that 75% of couples score below the healthy relationship threshold, underscoring the widespread need for improved communication skills.
Key findings from the research reveal multiple dimensions of listening's impact on relationship quality. People who reported their partners were good listeners are 17 times more likely to describe themselves as feeling very emotionally connected, while deep, meaningful conversations occur 12 times more frequently when partners listen well. Additionally, individuals with attentive listener partners are six times more likely to feel comfortable expressing their emotional needs, addressing a critical barrier to intimacy that many couples face.
The research has important implications for couples therapy approaches in Los Angeles and beyond. Drakeford, who has contributed to publications like HuffPost and The Zoe Report on intimacy and relationship health topics, stresses that professional support is often necessary to develop these skills. The data suggests that without intervention, couples risk joining the 1 in 9 participants who report feeling like they've given up trying to improve their relationships.
Oliver Drakeford Therapy offers specialized services to address these communication challenges, including evidence-based couples counseling, communication coaching that teaches the listening to learn approach, and conflict resolution skills training. The practice also provides LGBTQ+ couples therapy in West Hollywood and relationship anxiety therapy, with resources available including a free relationship skills ebook accessible at https://www.oliverdrakefordtherapy.com/couples. The practice's research, which has assessed over 1,300 couples, informs their therapeutic approaches and highlights the measurable benefits of developing listening competencies for relationship health.
